When I moved into my house, the first person I met was a little old lady who lives up the street. She stopped by to introduce herself. We chatted for a few minutes. I told her I had just come off the road, was recently widowed, and was essentially starting over from scratch. She told…
Author: Steve Ainslie
Want Not, Want Not
Lately, I have been listening to Dr. Peter McGraw’s Solo Podcast. A frequent topic of conversation is dating and relationships. Often during his interviews the conversation will touch upon “tactics, techniques and methods” to employ when dating. Peter shuts these down immediately by stating, “I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to…
Surprising Level Of Maturity And Self Awareness
After my initial whining about online dating apps and several halfhearted attempts, I am happy to report some good news. I’ve learned how to use the apps efficiently to contact women I’m interested in meeting. Sticking to my 1% standard is a good idea – for me and for the women. I’ve realized that I…
Autodidact
I learned a new word today – autodidact. It means, “a self-taught person”. AKA someone who has acquired knowledge without seeking help from a teacher or formal education institution. I’ve heard the word before, but never knew its meaning. Today, when I heard it on the Reason Roundtable podcast, I looked up the meaning. I…
A Bottle Of Water, A Box Of Tissues And A Hug
Over the course of my career, I worked my way up from entry level sales rep to team lead to manager to director to VP. During this time, I also had several major career setbacks that forced me to start over from the bottom again. Because of this, I had direct experience and expertise doing…
Father Of Mine
I could have written this song by Everclear about my father. It pretty much sums up my relationship with my father. He abandoned us when I was 5. Except for an occasional card or letter we rarely heard from him. He got a new wife, had a baby, owned a house and new cars. My…
Learning Curve
I am addicted to learning. I would guess I was born this way. As far backs I can remember, I wanted to know more and do more. My learning memories include: < 2 years old – self potty trained, talking, climbing walls, escaping the baby gate <4 years old – speak Spanish, read, write, blow…
Full Throttle
When I am invested in something, I tend to go all in – especially in the beginning. I’ve followed this pattern my entire life as far back as I can remember. I’m not very good with moderation. So when I fell for MGLN, it was no surprise to me that I was “all in”. With…
Embracing Bachelorhood
Many years ago I went to a book signing by one of my favorite authors, Robert B. Parker. It was held in the Mystery Lover’s Bookstore and was really cool. Parker sat at a table and spoke to us for half an hour about his life, his career, his characters and his approach to writing….
Wishful Thinking
When I was small child, I wished my parents would stop fighting and not get divorced. When we moved across the state to a strange city where I had no friends and no relatives, I wished we would move back “home” to Tamaqua. When I was a flabby 7th grade adolescent recently interested in girls,…