When my wife’s lung cancer spread and I realized she was going to die, I had a one track mind with a single purpose – make her remaining time as peaceful as possible and prevent her from suffering. I failed at that. Her final four months of life were horrible. She was wracked with pain….
Author: Steve Ainslie
Crazy Eyes
In a fit of madness, boredom and pathetic-ness, I created a Tinder account last night. I wanted to see if there were more choices of datable women than what was on Hinge and Bumble. My Tinder experience was short lived. Three hours later, I deleted my account. Here’s what I noticed that was different with…
Ghosted
I have officially crossed another dating milestone – I’ve been ghosted. In fact, I’ve been ghosted multiple times this past week. Two times it was online in dating apps with women who “liked” me. One never responded to my request to chat. The other said, “Sure how about tomorrow?”. I suggested several times/dates and she…
Dating Apps Are Just Like Social Media
There are many similarities between dating apps and social media apps. Both rely on a system of random, meaningless “rewards” (likes, hearts, stars, comments) to entice the user to remain on the app. Both promise something unrealistic- dates, love, popularity, fame, fortune – in exchange for simply logging in, swiping, clicking, posting a photo or…
Taking The Edge Off
This year I did something to make my morning workouts better. I bought a space heater for my garage. For the past two winters, I toughed it out, bundling up in multiple layers and blowing on my numb fingers as I exercised in the frigid early morning hours in an unheated garage that was between…
Dating Failure
Wow. It’s hard to believe it’s been only six weeks since I met My Good Looking Neighbor. During those weeks, I experienced a whirlwind of emotions, longings and feelings. My friendship (and hoped for romance) with MGLN reawakened part of me that had been dormant since my wife died 3 years ago. I was optimistic…
Fair, Impartial and Just Farce
Since I won the loser’s lottery having been summoned for jury duty in Wake County next week, I’ve done a bit of research on what is expected of me. Apparently jurors are sworn to keep secret all of the proceedings and are prohibited from: Checking facts online or in person Doing any research abut the…
The Pandemic Of Excuses Has Arrived
As I predicted last year, we are now beset with a pandemic of excuses. Here in my hometown, everything from grocery store shortages, to reduced pool hours, to trash pickup delays, to last minute school closures are all being blamed on “the Covid pandemic”. If there is poor customer service – it’s due to covid….
Intellectual Attraction
I leaned a new word yesterday – sapiosexual. According to Dictionary.com, a sapiosexual is “a person who finds intelligence to be a sexually attractive quality in others.” That’s me. I just didn’t know there was word for this. Ever since my wife died 3 years ago, I’ve been pretty isolated. The first year I was…
Artificial Intelligence & Algorithms – Don’t Believe the Hype
My recent foray into the online dating world using the Bumble and Hinge apps got me thinking about artificial intelligence and algorithms. If my experience is indicative of the power of AI, I suspect our fears of being tricked, manipulated and ultimately ruled by these systems is over-hyped. Both of these apps offer basic filters…