It has been 10 weeks since I banged my elbow on the doorframe and found a few days later that I had bursitis. Since then, as I’ve complained ceaselessly, I’ve had pain, limited mobility and an ugly looking lump on the end of my elbow (that apparently only I notice since absolutely not a single…
Author: Steve Ainslie
Feeling Music
When I listen to great music, I don’t hear it. I feel it it inside of me. It’s an immersive, all enveloping experience. My eyes close. My head bobs up and down. I’m drumming in the air, on the steering wheel or on my thighs. I feel the music in my chest. It makes me…
Sucker Punch
Some days it seems like life just keeps hitting you with another sucker punch. One discouraging thing after another hits you as the bad news keeps piling up. We’ve all had days like these. I try to prepare for the worst by planning for contingencies and by imagining what’s the worst thing that can happen…
I’m Not Patient. I’m Busy.
Patience to me is like discipline. It’s easy when you don’t need it. For example, friends say to me that they admire how disciplined I am about exercising and eating healthy food. I don’t have to be discipled about ether of these. Exercise is part of my daily routine. I wake up, I exercise. Period….
Deep Dark Secrets
You might find it hard to believe but for most of my life I never told anyone anything. I never admitted to being afraid. I never cried. I didn’t tell anyone of my deepest hopes, dreams or fantasies. I hid my shame, my anxieties and my mistakes. I thought that if I kept everything inside…
Scrambled
When I was 7 we moved across the state to Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. It was quite a shock leaving the tiny hometown I’d grown up for a big city. One of the strange things my mother did was buy a microwave and not purchase a stove. This was in the late 1970s. I suspect my mother…
The Power Of Paying No Attention
There’s only so many things I can get done in a day. When I managed a sales team for a fast paced startup I learned this lesson. Then I learned it better. Today, as I was walking Wiggles in the wee hours of the morning and freezing my butt off, I was thinking about why…
No Cheating
I don’t believe in cheating and never have. I’d like to say I developed this as part of my moral code of ethics, but I’m not certain that’s true. I think I was born this way. From as far back as I can recall (age 2.5), I had a profound sense of fairness. I didn’t…
Self Absorption
My brief foray into the online dating world continues to reveal lessons to me. Today’s lesson is on self absorption. When I first created my profile, I basically copied what was on the home page of this blog. It was a synopsis of who am I, where I came from and what I do. I…
Ending My Online Dating Experiment
Now that I’ve had several days of using the online dating apps Hinge and Bumble, I can report on my experience. Let’s start with a given, that both apps present me with many women whom I would never consider dating. There are filters that enable some vetting of characteristics and preferences but for the most part,…