I have returned to the dating/seeking a lifelong partner world. Since it’s been 32 years since I’ve gone on a date with a different woman (not counting my four recent non-dates with MGLN) this is all new to me. But even after those 4 “dates” I’ve found some clarity and my confidence is sky high….
Author: Steve Ainslie
Talk Dirty To Me
Now that I think of it, I can’t ever recall an actual woman talking dirty to me. I have never been a guy who was titillated by a woman “talking dirty”. In the movies and on TV, it always sounded silly, feigned and disingenuous. Until last week. During my non-date, we spoke for 4 hours…
Cannon Fodder
My friend has spent the past few years doing online dating with moderate success. He unsuccessfully tried to convince me to jump into that cesspool ever since I settled back down in Raleigh. For the first two years, I had no interest in dating whatsoever. Even this third year, I was apathetic and noncommittal at…
My 83 Year Old Girlfriend
Last year, I was driving down the street when I saw an elderly woman (80ish) on all fours on the sidewalk and a younger woman (30ish) crouching beside her. Something looked amiss. I pulled over and asked if they needed help. The elderly woman said “no” and the younger woman said “yes”. In a few…
Pictures of Me and the Girls
2020-2021 except for the picture of Snickers (2012) Pictures of my dogs, my home, the Orangemobile, my minimalistic garage gym and stuff are scattered throughout other posts on this site. Below are my girls – Both under 11 lbs and pretty darn short too. But they make up for it in barks and snuggles.
Disappointed But Not Devastated
My non-dating experience with My Good Looking Neighbor didn’t turn out the way I had hoped. Over a few weeks, we had four quite pleasant non-dates with deep conversations, a fun neighborhood Christmas Eve light tour and good meals. We’re becoming friends. Which is nice. But it’s less than I want. I am looking for…
I Can’t Always Get What I Want When I Want It
I am an impatient man. I want what I want and I want it now. That pretty much covers it. When I am unable to get what I want according to my timeframe (immediately), I have a few choices: Accept that I can’t control the timeline or result. Get frustrated and create machinations in my…
So Cool She Doesn’t Even Know It
All my life, I’ve been surrounded by people trying to look cool. It was probably the worst when I was a teenager, as we all struggled to look cool, be popular, avoid shame, have dates, succeed etc. For many people, the struggle to look cool didn’t go away when they became adults – even for…
Nitwit Shirt
On Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, I saw something I never saw before – entire families were walking around outside in matching pajamas. It wasn’t just the little kids. The parents, the teens and the tots were all dressed head-to-toe in matching PJ sets. Mystified, I googled it later and learned this has been a…
Things I Don’t See
My Good Looking Neighbor was talking to me a few days ago and said she’d been eating paleo for so long that she doesn’t even see fast food restaurants that she drives past everyday. Except on occasion, when she sees a long line of cars at the drive-thru and thinks, “Don’t they realize that this…