Author: Steve Ainslie

On a recent Solo podcast, the host said he has reached point in his life where he is “done auditioning”. As a professor, published author and lifelong bachelor, he’s spent much of his life striving to meet his goals and “proving himself to others.” He’s now middle aged and in a point in his life…

Once again, I removed the CONTACT page from my site. I’ve done this several times over the past 5 years. When I first started blogging, it was for business purposes, so I encouraged people to comment on posts and to contact me. I was also sending out a weekly newsletter with my latest posts to…

A theme that runs through in my life is opting out. I’ve written about it here and here. This week, the world has presented me with another prime opportunity to improve my life by opting out – the news. I’ve tried over the past 5 years to limit my consumption of news significantly but lately…

“Nothing like this has ever happened before!” “Human beings have never had to deal with this pace of technological advancement.” “Society has never dealt with anything like this!” Bullshit. It’s not unprecedented, you are just uniformed or historically illiterate. Just because it is the first time you’ve seen something doesn’t mean it’s the first time…

I have written before about America’s lax gun laws, the proliferation of guns and our governments’ (local and federal) seeming inability to do anything meaningful with gun control. Despite tragic school shootings, daily gang & drug related shootings and mass shootings that exceed most other countries in the world, it seems nothing can be done….

Something I knew I would miss after my wife died was being able to talk about the little things that happen everyday – observations, frustrations, celebrations, disappointments and delights. I remember saying this to a friend after she died and he said, “You can share them with me.” That was sweet of him to say….

On the drive home after learning the doctor suspected my wife had lung cancer, I asked my wife if there was anything she wanted to do, while she was able to, before doing more testing or treatments. “Like what?” she asked. I mentioned returning to Portugal or France (where she had vacationed long before I…

Ever since I ended my dating experiment last year, I have become more and more entrenched in single life. Whenever I think about dating someone, I immediately get an ache in my stomach and a feeling of dread at the thought of all the changes I’d have to make in my life: Ugh. No thanks….

I am reading the book Uneasy Street: The Anxieties of Affluence. The author, Rachel Sherman, did in-depth interviews with 50 affluent New Yorkers about their lifestyles, attitudes towards money, consumption habits, child raising, and more. The interviewees were all wealthy. Some had inherited $5M, $10M or more. Others were corporate attorneys, bankers, and executives who…

While reading breaking news about the Hamas attack on Israel, I kept running into links to X/Twitter that would not load unless I had an account. So I bit the bullet and created an account with a “hide-my-email” address so I could open the links and perhaps even see more real-time updates. That was a…