A new friend used the word “introverted” to describe herself to me in several conversations. My initial reaction was, cool – I’m introverted too!
When I first read “Quiet”, by Susan Cain, it was an eye opener for me. I learned that I wasn’t the only one like this. Other introverts were a lot like me.
Today, I took a personality test at 16personalities.com, because I figured it might help me better understand what introverted means. I am hoping it helps me be better at communicating with and understanding my new friend.
I’ve taken a number of personality tests over the years- for work, for interviews and for personal understanding. I have a basic understanding of the types and assumed I’d score as an INTJ. I like engineers, intellectuals and social misfits so this naturally appealed to me.
My type was ISTJ-a.
Reading the descriptions, they sound spot on:
- … defining characteristics of integrity, practical logic and tireless dedication to duty
- …enjoy taking responsibility for their actions, and take pride in the work they do – when working towards a goal
- … use their time and energy to complete relevant tasks with accuracy and patience
- …analyze their surroundings, check their facts and arrive at practical courses of action.
- …when they’ve made a decision, they will relay the facts necessary to achieve their goal, expecting others to grasp the situation immediately and take action
- …if they say they are going to get something done, they do it, meeting their obligations no matter the personal cost, and they are baffled by people who don’t hold their own word in the same respect
The profile goes on in detail about what it is like for an ISTJ in work, friendships, love, society etc. Much of what was written rings true for me.
It’s interesting to read through although I wonder if it’s a bit like horoscopes and fortune telling- where everything written can be (mis)interpreted as personal and meaningful.
So what am I going to do with this knowledge about myself?
Absolutely nothing.
Investing more time analyzing myself is over-analysis. I already know my personality traits and characteristics.
Instead, I went back to site to dig into articles on introverts and relationships to see if I can gain any insights or practical suggestions that might help my budding romance/friendship.
I have a suspicion that the readings may be interesting, but in the end, I already know what to do. Stop looking for answers on the internet.
All I need to do is show up, be myself and enjoy whatever experiences we have together.