I stopped dating someone who I really liked a few weeks ago because she made it clear that she was only interested in casual, non-committed dating. When we had begun dating, I thought she meant that she wouldn’t commit to a monogamous relationship with me until she got to know me better. But that’s not what she meant.
What she meant was that she would be happy to date me long term, but would be dating other men as well. In other words, I could be the casual “once-a-week” boyfriend.
No thanks.
I’ve thought about this a lot since I began dating this year. After all, I have a great single life. Dating multiple women without committing to one would appear to be a great way to maintain my independent lifestyle, while getting social and romantic companionship.
Except I cannot stand the thought of it.
I’m not wired that way.
I don’t do anything casually – not relationships, not work, not friendships, not fitness, not diet, not hobbies, not chores.
And so I continue to look for a woman I can have a committed relationship with. This week, I have a dinner date with the Phone Caller. It’s been a week since our first “intro” lunch date.
During our lunch date, our conversation flowed easily. It felt very comfortable being with her. I’m quite interested to see if we make a deeper, romantic connection. I hope we do. Time will tell.