A friend who listened to my Solo podcast episode said that he felt I was very “charitable” when referencing certain people. I knew exactly what he meant, because I did this intentionally.
The purpose of the podcast was not to be a public confessional, nor was it to denigrate people who hurt me in the past. I couldn’t imagine any good coming from
doing this.
I’ve written many never-to-be published and long since deleted posts about these people. These private writings helped me to process my thoughts and reach a point of acceptance without harming anyone else.
That’s how I choose to deal with it.
A long time ago, my wife would be upset when I mentioned certain people from my childhood and said, “They did the best they could.” My wife loved me and bristle at the thought of some of the neglect, abuse or harms I had experienced.
It wasn’t until I was older and had worked through a year of intensive therapy that I was able to work through parts of my past that were buried deep inside of me and holding me back.
But I did and as a result, I became free.
I know longer believe that everyone did “their best”. Some did their best. Some were lazy and self-serving. Some were purposely cruel.
I don’t associate with people like that anymore. So there’s no need to drag them back in – whether it’s on a podcast, in a blog post or in my head.