My childhood was full of chaos. Divorce, moving, a crazy stepfather, switching schools multiple times, 20+ kids moving in and out of our home, poverty, living in the ghetto, and more.
When I moved in with my wife, the chaos subsided a lot. She and I worked hard to give our family a sense of security and stability. Still, like with most families, some things beyond our control. We had to deal with her ex-husband who was actively involved with the kids. We dealt with some pretty significant health issues that plagued my wife. We dealt with financial struggles for many years. And there were plenty of drama filled moments with the kids.
I suspect some families don’t have as much drama and others have much more. As someone once said, “We all live with different weather.“
Now that I live alone, there is no drama in my life and I absolutely love it. I live a quiet, simple life.
I find it interesting that my closest friends do not. And there’s a common reason for this – they are pursuing love.
One friend has found love and is in a committed relationship. Another is actively dating. A third is chasing his dream of finding love someday.
When I was dating earlier this year, it brought a bit of drama back into my life too. I had to consider someone else’s schedule, feelings, wants and needs. I had to make accommodations. None of my dates did everything exactly the way I would have preferred (duh..right?).
Some of them had a lot of problems – mental health issues, physical health issues, ex-husband issues, kid issues, financial issues, self-confidence issues and job issues.
You might think that my friends and I are bad pickers of women.
I don’t think so.
I think everyone has issues, some more, some less.
When we combine families or move in with someone or even date someone consistently, we all get exposed to more potential drama.
No drama – another benefit of being single.