Dating has been a challenge, to put it mildly. What I am seeking – a committed relationship, love, romance, companionship and spending time together – does not align with the priorities of the women I’ve been dating. An occasional text every few days and a date once a week are nice, but not enough. Casually…
Older And Wiser
Sometimes I bemoan the fact that my parents divorced, my dad disappeared for life and my single mother wasn’t actively involved parent. I wonder what life would have been like in a loving 2 parent family, with stability, security and nurturing. Then I think about my childhood and remember the parts of it that were…
Saying Yes
Over drinks before the pandemic, an old friend and former employee of mine talked to me about his failed marriage. He said, “I was working all the time and didn’t spend enough time with my wife. She wanted more than that.” It was sad to hear. When he worked for me, I tried to push…
A Girl Like That
Sometimes I think “How can a girl like TMF be interested in a guy like me?” When I saw her picture and profile on a dating app a few weeks ago, my heart started racing. She was stunningly attractive in a series of photos ranging from her big smile in her colorful poncho, to her…
There Are No Red Flags
Since I began dating this year, I’ve been warned to watch out for red flags. Blogs, podcasts, friends and family have all advised me to be on the lookout to avoid dating women who have any of these: Mental Illness Financial Problems Not Over a Divorce or Breakup Job Issues Insecurity The list goes on…
I Forgive You
I used to take pride in holding a grudge. I considered a testament to my character that I would hang onto ancient grudges and resentments against former employers, family and friends that went back decades. If you screwed me over you were out of my life forever. That’s how I rolled for about 35 years….
Please Disturb
A year-and-a half ago I turned off the ringer on my phone, disabled all notifications and started leaving my phone at home when I was out. I had good reasons for doing this. Effectively, ever since then, nobody could contact me in real time. They could only leave a message for me to call them…
Hairy Situation
Patience. I don’t have it – especially when I want something to happen right now. And right now, I really want some things that will take time, effort and perhaps a bit of good fortune to develop. It makes me a little crazy when I cannot do anything rush the timeline. Why is this happening?…
Dating Is Not A Job Interview
Over the past 20 years, I’d become quite proficient at job interviews. I’d estimate I was offered a position after interviewing for a job 75% of the time. I knew exactly what to do to succeed at job interviews. I’d research the company, the position, the industry, the company’s competitors, and the people who would…
My 86 Year Old Girlfriend
When I moved into my house, the first person I met was a little old lady who lives up the street. She stopped by to introduce herself. We chatted for a few minutes. I told her I had just come off the road, was recently widowed, and was essentially starting over from scratch. She told…