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In 2021, I wrote about not having it in me to be someone’s caretaker. At the time, it was two years after my wife had died. Two years later in 2023, I wrote that my heart had hardened against caring deeply for people I don’t love. Now, in 2025, I find myself thinking about how…

My newly installed faucet in my master bathroom developed a leak from under the handle. The leak was so slow that for almost a week, I thought it wasn’t a leak. I thought it was because I tend to splash a lot of water all over this sink since this is my main bathroom where…

A neighbor, who I see several times a week while walking the dogs, invited me to his annual chili cook-off party last week. He invited me last year too. At the time, I said maybe I’d come if I could make it. (I didn’t go last year). This time, I was more upfront. I thanked…

Hollywood, as we once knew it, is over. I started to witness the slow decline of Hollywood in the early ’90s when movie & television production moved from LA to cheaper locales in Canada, Pittsburgh and Vancouver. Then in the 2000s, it moved to the deep South, the UK, Australia and New Zealand where government…

This might be my final post. After writing more than 1500 posts when I launched this blog in 2017, I’m thinking about ending it. I still plan to write – probably even more – because it helps me sort through my thoughts, opinions and beliefs. But, I’ll keep this writing offline and unpublished. The impetus…

I listened to Anthony Scaramucci on two different podcasts recently (1, 2). Every time I hear this guy speak, I respect him more. His honesty and values are admirable. More importantly, he demonstrates them through his actions. During these two particular episodes, he talked about some of the mistakes he made throughout the course of…

I am intentionally directing my attention (and life) offline which is in direct opposition to many people who are spending more of their time online. As someone who embraced and loved technology since the early 1990s and built my career around it, I recognize the irony of my choice today. It was the smartphone and…

I heard someone on a podcast say recently, “This Is Not The Apocalypse“. I can’t remember what it was in reference too, other than some current event. It’s been reverberating in my mind ever since. For reasons I’ve written about and everyone already knows, disaster/hyperbole/doom dominate the news headlines. It seems like every story predicts…

Last week there were three deaths that made the national news. It seems like every few weeks, there’s another news story about a school shooter, a convicted criminal with a known record of multiple violent offenses, or a mentally ill person with a history of violence who commits some horrific violent crime. In hindsight, some…

I replaced three bathroom faucets last week. One was dripping. The second had previously been leaking, but I repaired it a few months ago. The third, identical to the others, hadn’t leaked yet, but I figured it was just a matter of time until it started leaking too. Plus, I have seen many other faucets…