I downloaded my dating app statistics from Hinge for the past 3 months so I could take an objective look at the numbers. I “liked” 910 different women. Of these, 14 “matched” me back. That means 1.5% of the women I found detractive enough to contact, replied to me. I “unmatched” 270 women who “liked”…
Author: Steve Ainslie
All Dressed Up And No Place To Go
When dating TMF earlier this year, it became obvious that my “desert survivalist/exercise enthusiast” wardrobe wasn’t going to cut it. On our 3rd date – dinner at a sushi restaurant – I felt like a complete schmuck when I showed up wearing a fleece with jeans and Merrell boots, while she was dressed to kill…
Casual Connections
During the pandemic, I came to understand how much I needed casual connections with other human beings to maintain my spirits. I was grateful for the few in-person conversations I had each week with: The grocery store check out lady The check-in clerk/temperature taker at the swimming pool The neighbors I’d see when I walked…
Ex Familia
When I was growing up, my family was torn apart by divorce, relocations and a house that at times resembled a homeless shutter or foster home. Amidst that chaos, I longed to have a normal family like my friends did. I wanted to have a home filled with loving parents, good kids, a dog, peace…
Dating vs Marrying
When I began dating a few months ago, I was certain I wanted to be in a committed relationship. My dating fantasies included spending lots of time together, falling in love, moving in together and eventually marriage. Why? Because that’s the only thing I knew. I dated a few different women (girls) in high school…
Maybe I’ll Stay Single
Dating, for the first time in 32 years, after a 29 year marriage (plus 3 years of single living after being widowed), has been exhilarating, exhausting, fun and frustrating. The dating app experience kind of sucks. I am constantly the one who has to reach out to women. I have not been approached by a…
100 Dates After My Wife Died
My friend, who used to be a writing professor and has published one book has ben harping on me for years to write a book. First, he encouraged me to write a book about sales, since I had published 100 posts for Inside Sales Dude. I had no interest in writing a book. After all,…
Joie de vivre
In one of my dating apps, I am promoted to enter the “Most Important Thing I Want In A Woman”. Just one? At first, I had a laundry list of attributes. Then I narrowed this down to a paragraph description. I spoke about love, nature, commitment, dogs, fitness and passion. Today, I deleted it and…
Blue Collar Man
A few years ago, my stepson pulled up to my house with a flat tire on a Friday night. He was 20 miles from home and didn’t have a spare tire. I unsuccessfully searched online to find a tire place that was open. Then I said, “Let’s throw your tire in my trunk and take…
Bluebirds
When I moved into my home, the seller left me a note saying that they had never used any pesticides or poisons in the yard for the 20 years they owned the home. They wrote that there were bunnies who would visit to munch on the clover and the bluebirds would nest in the birdhouse…