Now that I’ve had several days of using the online dating apps Hinge and Bumble, I can report on my experience. Let’s start with a given, that both apps present me with many women whom I would never consider dating. There are filters that enable some vetting of characteristics and preferences but for the most part,…
Parlez-vous Français?
Rather than just talking (and writing) about it, I made the leap and started a duolingo course on learning to speak French. I’m using the free course (naturally). So far I’ve done 2 lessons which take about 10 minutes each. I’ve learned a few words and phrases: A Man A Woman A Boy A Girl…
Meyers Briggs, Enneagram, And Me
In a conversation last week, MGLN and I were chatting about Meyers Briggs personality tests when she asked if I had ever done Enneagram testing. I recognized the word, but wasn’t sure if I had ever done that type of test. I have taken Meyers Brigg, DISC and others for work before so I might…
Peeping Tom
I watch people all the time. I find it fascinating to observe their habits and behaviors. I don’t sit in my house staring out the window like a little old lady or peeping in windows like a pervert. Instead, I watch people when I am outside walking the dog. I watch them when I am…
Sibling Surprise
I firmly believe my older sister has despised me from the moment I was born. I suspect it has to do with sibling rivalry and the fact that our father left us when I was little (but that’s just armchair psychiatrist speculation on my part). What I know for a fact is that she took…
A Two Way Street
Some people are givers. Some people are takers. Most people I know are a little of both. I’ve met people at the extreme ends of the spectrum – martyrs on one side and narcissists (or at minimum extremely selfish) on the other. I spend as little time as possible with people like this. Those ones…
Radical Honesty
A friend told me recently that she lives according to the principal of Radical Honesty. I had never heard that term before but immediately recognized it because that’s how I choose to live. I don’t lie, cheat or steal. Nor do I tolerate this behavior in others. Having been partnered up for 38 of my…
Self-Inflicted Frustration
My life was going great until late in 2021. Everyday followed a well designed structure that maximized my productivity, learning and fulfillment while minimizing any complications or distractions. After three years of being single, I’d finally mastered bachelorhood. It was fantastic, I thought. So much so that I doubted I would ever want to be…
My Grinch Heart
In “How the Grinch Stole Christmas“, there’s a defining moment when the Grinch hears the Whos in Whoville joyfully singing on Christmas morning, despite the fact that he’d stolen all their presents. This causes the Grinch’s tiny shrunken heart to grow 3 times in size and nearly explode as he’s filled with love. With his…
Happy Freaking New Year
I despise New Year’s Eve. It began when I was 4 years old and begged my parents to let me stay up to watch the ball drop on TV. They conceded to wake me up just before midnight to watch it. I couldn’t wait. I was so excited. First I would be awake at midnight!…