This morning, I was thinking about the women I’ve dated this year and what attracted me to them. Of course there was physical attraction – I liked how they looked. But what attracted me more was their passion and their expertise.
They were all intelligent. Most were experts in their chosen careers: biomedical engineering, medicine, law, education and business. Many had advanced degrees.
The most interesting women were passionate about something in addition to their work. One practiced dressage. Another’s face lit up when she talked about her international travel adventures – skiing the Alps, crossing the Ganges and climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro. Another was a music fanatic who followed hr favorite bands across the country. Another was a hardcore fitness fanatic.
For me, passion drives attraction. It doesn’t really matter what a woman is passionate about – just that she is passionate about something.
I don’t have to share her passions. After all, I have my own passions to pursue. Sometimes there is overlap, sometimes not.
What’s been missing so far from my dating experience has been a mutual passion for building a relationship together. But I’ve experienced that before and so have many of these women.
Sooner or later, I’ll connect with a woman who brings her passions, accepts my passions, and shares a passion for “us” as much as I do.
I’ve experienced this in business. I’ve experienced this in friendship. And I’ve experienced this in love.
It’s as simple as 1+1 = 3.