My friend recently went indoor rock climbing with his girlfriend and called to tell me about it. He, like me, is very into fitness, movement and physical challenges. And, unlike me, he’s been gifted with natural strength, flexibility and balance. So of course, he absolutely loved it.
As he extolled the virtues of rock climbing and told me I would be a ‘natural fit’ for it, I had to agree. I’m lightweight, relatively strong and enjoy non-competitive challenges. Plus, as a kid, I climbed everything. I could envision myself really getting into indoor rock climbing.
Then he tried to “close me” by saying, “This is where you’ll find all the young, fit hot women too. You should definitely go so you can meet someone to date.”
Yeah. No thanks.
I have zero interest in trying to meet hot, fit, young women who have absolutely no interest in dating me. I already see a few such women at the pool, pushing baby strollers around my neighborhood, and on my rare visits to Trader Joe’s.
Plus, I have zero interest in dating someone who’s 15 or 20 years younger than me. They are in a completely different phase of their life that I have have already experienced. I wouldn’t be a good partner for someone who is trying to establish a career, build a family and have an active, thriving social life.
My friend, on the other hand, is dating someone who’s about a decade younger than him. For the first time in his life, he’s found a woman who seems like a good fit for him and vice versa. I am happy for him every time I think about it.
As for me, I had my perfect fit for many years. She died 5 years ago. I’m not looking for another one.