A few days ago I had a phone call with a woman I met online (but not in person yet). She was on a road trip. I asked her to call me if she got bored when driving home. I remember during my 10,000 mile, two month road trip how invaluable it was to me…
Author: Steve Ainslie
Attraction Of Happiness
I had an in-person date recently with a woman I met on a dating app. Before we met we chatted online and by phone. We had much in common and were attracted to each other (or each other’s profiles, at least). When met for coffee, I tried to be charming. I was open, curious, and…
My Day At The Art Museum
Yesterday I visited the NC Museum of the Arts. I had anticipated it to be a watershed moment for me because I had never visited a museum without someone else before. It was a watershed experience. But not because I was alone. The museum had the exhibits sectioned off into different rooms. There were exhibits…
Rico Suave
When it comes to dating, I have never been a smooth talker or pickup artist. Nor have I ever been quick to respond with a clever retort or a comeback in non-dating situations. When I think of that, combined with having had a long stable marriage and living a relatively quiet life, I expected that…
Passion Attraction
This morning, I was thinking about the women I’ve dated this year and what attracted me to them. Of course there was physical attraction – I liked how they looked. But what attracted me more was their passion and their expertise. They were all intelligent. Most were experts in their chosen careers: biomedical engineering, medicine,…
Kissing Frogs
One of my friends said this about dating, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before finding the right woman.” Another friend said I should to date at least 100 different women before committing to one. Even TMF, who I dated for a few weeks, advised me to date multiple women because otherwise, “How…
A Little Piece Of My Heart
Since I began dating in December of last year, I’ve met (and dated) five different women. All of these dates began with via chatting through an online dating app then meeting face-to-face to see if we felt a connection. In chatting and texting before meeting, I felt a connection with each woman. They were all…
Dream Approval
I don’t talk about my dreams much. I rarely blog about them because I think they aren’t meaningful or interesting to anyone except me. Dreams sometimes help me work through the thoughts that are racing through my head. Other times, they are the feverish reactions to emotional overload, having a headache, or eating too much…
Noncommittal
Dating has been a challenge, to put it mildly. What I am seeking – a committed relationship, love, romance, companionship and spending time together – does not align with the priorities of the women I’ve been dating. An occasional text every few days and a date once a week are nice, but not enough. Casually…
Older And Wiser
Sometimes I bemoan the fact that my parents divorced, my dad disappeared for life and my single mother wasn’t actively involved parent. I wonder what life would have been like in a loving 2 parent family, with stability, security and nurturing. Then I think about my childhood and remember the parts of it that were…