I firmly believe my older sister has despised me from the moment I was born. I suspect it has to do with sibling rivalry and the fact that our father left us when I was little (but that’s just armchair psychiatrist speculation on my part). What I know for a fact is that she took…
Author: Steve Ainslie
A Two Way Street
Some people are givers. Some people are takers. Most people I know are a little of both. I’ve met people at the extreme ends of the spectrum – martyrs on one side and narcissists (or at minimum extremely selfish) on the other. I spend as little time as possible with people like this. Those ones…
Radical Honesty
A friend told me recently that she lives according to the principal of Radical Honesty. I had never heard that term before but immediately recognized it because that’s how I choose to live. I don’t lie, cheat or steal. Nor do I tolerate this behavior in others. Having been partnered up for 38 of my…
Self-Inflicted Frustration
My life was going great until late in 2021. Everyday followed a well designed structure that maximized my productivity, learning and fulfillment while minimizing any complications or distractions. After three years of being single, I’d finally mastered bachelorhood. It was fantastic, I thought. So much so that I doubted I would ever want to be…
My Grinch Heart
In “How the Grinch Stole Christmas“, there’s a defining moment when the Grinch hears the Whos in Whoville joyfully singing on Christmas morning, despite the fact that he’d stolen all their presents. This causes the Grinch’s tiny shrunken heart to grow 3 times in size and nearly explode as he’s filled with love. With his…
Happy Freaking New Year
I despise New Year’s Eve. It began when I was 4 years old and begged my parents to let me stay up to watch the ball drop on TV. They conceded to wake me up just before midnight to watch it. I couldn’t wait. I was so excited. First I would be awake at midnight!…
Giving It A Shot In 2022
I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions. I always thought the idea was stupid. When I need to change something, the time to change it is right then – not on New Year’s Day. Throughout each year, I make many decisions to change something in my life. Lately I’ve been thinking of a few things I…
Kids Everywhere
If I had any doubts that I don’t want kids in my life, this Christmas season sealed it for me. First I had a serious conversation with MGLN about children. She doesn’t have any children nor does she want to have any for very valid personal reasons. Which leads me to believe there will be…
My 1%
My first two days of using Hinge and Bumble for online dating has been a learning experience. It’s been different than what I had anticipated. After swiping past hundreds of unappealing profiles, I’ve gotten efficient at it. I take no pleasure in sifting through woman after woman only to be “rewarded” with an occasional candidate….
I Can Fly
My first experience with runner’s high was as a senior in high school. We had moved from a few blocks away from school to 3 miles further at the top of a steep hill. My walking time grew from 10 to 30 minutes. Initially, I was grumpy about this. But within a week, I felt…