After a few days of rain, we finally had a hot sunny day in Raleigh. It was lovely. As I walked outside to hang out in the yard with my dogs, I saw a big cloud of moths hovering just outside of my bedroom door. I had never seen this many in one place before,…
A Little Boujie
One of the women I dated recently was an accomplished corporate attorney. She came from NYC, was cultured, well educated, an international traveler and fairly high up on the org chart of her company. During our two dates, she described herself several times as ”a little boujie” and appreciated the finer things in life. She…
Bursts Of Ecstasy
When I was a teenager, I remember a few days when I woke up for school full of energy, incredibly upbeat and almost jittery with excitement. Later that day, I’d see flashes of light (like after an old school camera flash went off in your eyes) and then I’d start to get a headache. That…
My Friend The Hypochondriac
My friend is a hypochondriac. He has three different health insurance plans. He sees a doctor at least once a quarter for a “regular” checkup. He gets blood work drawn, gets more inoculations than he needs, has been in therapy for over 10 years, sees a physical therapist and chiropractor regularly and much more. He…
Freedom From Fear
When I’m talking to my mother, she’ll often say, “That must have been really scary” or “That must make you feel very afraid”. She’s wrong. Every time. I am afraid of nothing. I used to be afraid. Afraid of losing what I had. Afraid of not being able to take care of my wife. Afraid…
Want Not Waste Not
When visited the Apple Store at the local mall for a laptop repair, I planned to check out the North Face store. Since most of my clothing is “survival, hiking and climbing” gear, I thought I might find something I liked. Nope. The store was fine. It had shoes, pants, jackets, coats, shirts and gear….
Mall-content
I visited a mall for the first time in 3 years this week. The last time I visited a mall was when I needed to go to the Apple store in Tucson after my iPhone died when I was living on the road. Coincidentally, this week’s mall visit was to go to the Apple store…
Putting Your Best Text Forward
Recently I read a message from a friend I met online several years ago. My friend said that he considered me family. As flattered as I am for his kind words, I disagree. We are not family. In fact, through my dating misadventures, I’ve come to realize that communicating through online messaging, reading blogs, dating…
TikTok
Over the past two weeks while I was recovering from my foot injury, I spent more time messing around on the Internet. What I’ve seen is that news sites now report on TikTok videos – much in the same way they report on tweets from Twitter. As if either is news. They are not. Often…
Talking To Strangers
During most of the first dates I had with women I met on the dating apps we had good conversations. Even during the dates that were somewhat like interrogations, our conversations flowed freely. We laughed and smiled a lot. We shared both casual and deep experiences. I was never at a loss for words and…